Anonymous asked: So Rachel. Here is my problem.
I am 16 years old and i really like my friend Ernest.
it seems like things are turning out for the best because he seems to like me too.
im a shy little muther ffffff tho, and i wouldnt dare make a move. the way he acts with me is just so like, idk how to explain but he really seems to like me.. he walks home with me all the time and on facebook he always IMs me or messages me and we talk super late at night. today we walked home together and he said if i could walk all the way home with him so i did and he was walking so close to me and i told him stop pushing me and he was laughing and pushed up against me more and we were both laughing really hard. during class he wants me to sit next to him and hes always telling me about his music interest and well. i feel like he likes me honestly Rachel, i do. but theres one problem. he has a girlfriend. shes not just a simple gf that texts him everyday and whatnot.... hes known her since elementary. and i cant get in the way of that.. and everyday i feel like the most worthless crap ever. like hes so thin and good looking and im so not.,. and his girlfriend is so cute and i just dont stand a chance.. i recently got dumped because my ex wanted me to lose weight.. and now hes got a new skinny girlfriend and it kills me everyday because i have them both for a class.... and everytime i see them i remember how alone i am. and then i think of Ernest, the guy i like.. and i remember he has a girlfriend and i almost feel like killing myself. i have ditched my 3rd period so many times to avoid my ex because i feel so worthless... idk what to do. my brother talks to me about his crush and im just like here sitting all alone.. facebook is boring because no one ever talks to me and well i dont even know what to do with my fat ugly self anymore. im sorry this message is so long. but if you could please take the time to help me.. i would appreciate it so much. venting to you is wonderful especially since i know you dont judge. thank you so much..

i would never judge you, ever. understand that

this guy sounds like he likes you, and if i were him i would drop this girl he’s had for so long and look for more fish in the pond.

i want you to realize that weight does not matter. your ex is a complete asshole for having told you to lose weight. guys dont realize how hard a girl can take that. 

i used to be anorexic. i dont want you going down that path. but if you want to be “thinner” (which you dont have to be), i would suggest healthy eating, exercise, and getting sleep. all of that helped me recover from my disorder.